So, they rationalize and tell themselves whatever they need to tell themselves to make the other person seem like their soul mate, when in reality, the relationship started off with lies and deceit. You joined because you mentally checked out of your marriage (I can understand why, based on your email). If he is married, I’ve got all kinds of other issues. I think that men and women are on their best behavior and most infatuated at the beginning of a relationship—especially one where the time you spend together is so limited. I hope I wasn’t too hard on you, or that I sound judgmental.So, the question becomes, will he be this same person in 2 years from now? I truly understand that feeling unhappy and trapped in a marriage can lead to vulnerability and looking for happiness through cheating.Since then he started to see a therapist (before he said he wouldn’t ever see one) to help him change for better. There is nothing that bothers me more than married people who go on dating sites. Some lie and say they are single, and then they begin a relationship with an innocent person who ends up falling in love and then finding out the person is married.
Online dating sites have been gaining a lot of exposure over the previous couple of years.
More and more couples are being reported to have met on an online dating site.
Why then are looking for a marriage with foreign men? On the contrary this demonstrates their seriousness and real wish to find husband.
They don’t wait for rare chance; they are looking actively for a man who can love seriously.
My husband’s excuse for not being a good husband or partner is that his father didn’t treat his mom nice. Never touched me, even though I asked so many times and said how important that was to me. And then pinched a bit of my skin to show me that I have half an inch of fat on my belly. Last month I told my husband that our marriage stopped working for me. Let’s get to the part of your post that really struck a nerve with me.
11 years of jokes just made me tired and very vulnerable. First of all, hearing how your husband treated you makes me very sad for you. I could write an entire blog about how men and women have the tendency to repeat the patterns of their parents—some realizing it and some not, some willing to get the help they need to be different than their parent’s bad behavior, and some swearing they’ll never act that way and then do.
I don’t approve or disapprove because every situation is different and I’m not there.
I’m not one of those people who says, “He or she should have gotten separated before beginning a relationship.” I also don’t say, “It’s OK to cheat.” In your heart, I think you know what the right thing to do is.
Whether you stay or leave, you just have to find the guts to go with the decision you think is the right one.