Playing dumb to get a guy only works to get you a dumb guy.Renowned anthropologist Helen Fisher’s annual Singles in America survey for is the most comprehensive survey of singles, polling 5,675 respondents for their attitudes and behaviors related to dating. On one side, you get a brilliant, stimulating mind, which really turns you on… Before I forget, there was one other thing I wanted you to consider: Very smart.
You’d make adjustments if you alienated your co-workers and wanted to feel better from 9-5 every day. And a big reason you struggle to connect with men is because you’re so bright. Like many of you, I’m a bit of an intellectual snob.
Now before you decide that you hate me, I’d like you to consider two things: First, does that description remind you of any of the men you’ve dated in the past? On the other you get a narcissistic, difficult, self-obsessed, coldly logical man who is much more concerned with ideas than feelings, and much more concerned with himself than with you.
On the other hand, men who don’t value intelligence in women claim that men hold either a neutral or negative view of smart women.
They portray them as difficult, abrasive and lacking a nurturing quality.
That doesn't mean that smart men don't value female intelligence in a relationship, only that they tend to do so in the way that a woman values loyalty in a man.
But it means that men don't, by and large, find themselves instinctively drawn to displays of female intelligence in the same way they are drawn to displays of large breasts, well-formed posteriors, or long hair.
Most women understand that dumb men aren't attracted smart women - such men feel "threatened" is the usual line - and they aren't concerned about that because, being hypergamous, they usually aren't attracted to less intelligent men.
What they don't understand, unfortunately, is that most intelligent men aren't attracted to their intelligence either.
Not to mention that it seems like a dangerously slippery slope down a path towards a "Well, she licked her lips/looked dumb/was tired, so clearly she was asking for it" type of reasoning.