From there, the conversations were easy and engaging. Fun fact: Tinder conducted a study last year and found that “users are 30 percent more likely to receive a response if they use a GIF.” So while you may be more of a waving bear or Lionel Richie kind of gal, don’t discount the power of a funny image to get you to your next first date.This intro line might sound obscure, but hear me out. His profile name is “billgates___” and he is quote, “on here *****in around get a a real one” (yup, that’s with two “a’s”). This guy started off as basic as he possibly could and escalated right into giving me his number; all the while not ever receiving a response from me… This guy starts with one “Hi,” and ends with two “Hello’s.” In all fairness, this next dude did a semi-escalation. nothing more annoying than the literal “hello.” Every girl who online dates has about a thousand of these waiting for her in her inbox… You can totally picture these guys clicking the “send” button and then, in their “Oh, SHITTTT!!!
On Tinder, you can pair an attention-grabbing GIF with a humorous message: On a dating site like or POF, you could make a joke about the shared experience of scrolling through profile after profile: Finding common ground is a pro move, because if you can make her think the two of you are similar she’s more likely to respond.
Women are simply more comfortable around people who remind them of themselves.
So what makes this greeting stand out from your standard “What’s up? That’s right, I am guilty of sending the same thing to everyone all the time. Back in June, a few contributors and I wrote about how it really is possible to meet a nice guy on a dating app. The relationship didn’t last, but the line—like a particularly flattering top or my favorite eyeliner—has yet to fail me. (Great for those of you who are shy about reaching out first.) One guy responded after only a few minutes with, “The Kapowski.
At the time, I happened to be dating a nice guy that I met (you guessed it) on an app. Diabolical.” Two others sent back a GIF of Zack Morris.
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.
I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone off of the internet. I have even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.Here’s the deal with the messaging thing, a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Others try pick-up-artist “negging.” Some send ridiculously long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they’re currently doing with their lives.Some guys think that it’s cool to copy and paste and throw out a message like bait in a lake full of carp. I’d like to say there’s no right or wrong way to message someone (everyone usually has something that works for them), but there is definitely a better way. Sometimes a simple “Hi” or “Hello” just doesn’t feel like it goes far enough.This guy can’t even muster up the “H” in “hey” by his third attempt: This man literally took out a section of his original message on each follow-up: As we saw above, some men like to follow-up after their first message. It literally took me 2 seconds to type that shit just now. This guy wanted to make sure I knew exactly what he was saying… Some men like to ask for assistance on refining their profiles or messages. Why don’t we start with that shitty introduction and go from there. Some men take it personally when you don’t respond back and assume you’re stuck up.Are you tired of not getting responses to the messages you send on online dating sites and apps?