You spend part of your time trying to recover from, and make sense of, all these potentially lovely people who won’t give you the time of day, then the rest flicking off people in whom you have no interest. In theory, though, it should at least be less uncomfortably urgent for those of us of a certain age: somewhere between the first biological clock (gotta reproduce! We can treat the process itself — the search, the exchange of messages, the one-off dinners — as intellectually intriguing, diverting, amusing, and perhaps even a path toward self-knowledge.
Diana Kirschner – In your book Find Your Soulmate Online in Six Simple Steps, you speak to all women, including women who are over 45 and 55. They can do very well on once they use the rules to optimize their online materials.
You talk about how they can succeed in online dating. There are tons of Boomer people on there right now. I’m not up on the very la, but it was for quite a while.
Rather than dip your toe in the water and give up because you’re intimidated, I highly encourage you to check out Finding the One Online, in which I hold your hand through the entire online dating process, from getting over your fears, to choosing a website, to writing a profile, to flirting with men and so on.
How women present themselves is a topic about which I can speak more knowledgeably.
One profile contains great photos and little information, while the other contains great info and vague photos.
This helps keep your public identity somewhat disguised.
I have four grown who are trying to set me up (I love them, but what a nightmare!! I highly suggest you get over your fear of online dating, not because it’s perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but because it’s ubiquitous and effective in creating opportunity.
It’s about attracting men, understanding men, and making them want to stick around forever and ever. As to where you meet men, yes, there’s one place that’s more effective in making introductions than 100 visits to Whole Foods and Art History class combined.
The site has helped many, many people find love on and off the web.
More and more people on Ok Cupid (and other sites such as Plenty of Fish (POF)) use two different profiles.
Accompanying photos occasionally include kids and pets and sometimes are taken in (and of) exotic lands, the point apparently being to make the rest of us depressed about the repetitive, prosaic, embarrassingly local lives we — and apparently only we — are leading.