As for the non-Muslim girls, talk to them, but don’t ever bring one home.", "As a fragmented diaspora that is racialized, [young Muslims] are both viewed as oppressed but also hyper-sexualized.
One of those names probably looks less familiar than the others, and for good reason.
Young Muslim Americans aren't exactly dominant in the mainstream dating conversation, and that's because "dating while Muslim" is its own unique, oft-misunderstood reality.
He is so liberal in so many ways but I’m very uncomfortable being a secret when we have professed such deep love for each other…and he’s not just saying it, it’s true for him.
But he doesn’t know what will happen with his country and situation, so I understand that too. I am beginning to realize that this love may be an impossible hope for me…and maybe there are aspects of his faith that limit him too much to even consider a longer term, more serious relationship, no matter how liberal he seems.
Even though I was born and raised in this religion, that was my own awakening as to why this was a way of life for me [and I decided to commit myself to this faith].”What does that mean to you and your faith? I had to go through a process of that, too, because you’re immediately recognized as a Muslim if you’ve got your hijab on. “For the personality type that I have, the hijab was very simple way for me to maintain a balance and a center and a sort of discipline that I needed and that I don’t seem to find in a lot of other ways in this world. But the hijab is as simple as putting a T-shirt on.”“If you’re a conservative Muslim, your family gets you some men, you pick and choose what you want, and it’s done in a really quick turnaround period. And I don’t knock any sort of trajectory or pathway to finding love or getting married or having a marriage. It blows my mind to know that you can try this conservative approach, or this non-conservative approach…”But there’s no full-on “dating” that goes on in your community?
It’s not the same for men, now that beards are in style. And by ‘quick turnaround period,’ I mean that some people can be married in, like, a month. Because you have people who do this arranged marriage situation, and the marriages work and sometimes they don’t. “My parents know that I talk to men with the purpose of dating for marriage. Sounds like my parents.“I live in Chicago, and I live in this great neighborhood, so I meet people all the time.
Muslim men are very passionate about their beliefs and their traditions and many people will see this as a highly attractive quality.
However it does also mean that you are taking on both the man and his values and while you don't necessarily have to agree with them (the Muslim faith does not discriminate between religions), you will have to make sure that you are happy making compromises and comfortable with your partner's views just as in any inter-religion relationship.
The messages young people get that "seemingly innocuous email exchanges or online dating could topple one off the Islamic path if one lack[s] vigilance." The takeaway for religious young people is that they should marry, but they shouldn't actually date to get there.