And I got in touch with a dating coach I know rather well for some advice, because honestly, I’d normally suggest if you’ve been planning to pursue a lady who’s in medical school: don’t.
Dating a med student may be the most difficult, most demanding, most patience-requiring endeavor you’d ever have to take in your entire life.
When I was finishing my fifth year of studies as clinical psychology doctoral student, I fell in love with a second-year medical resident; a wanderer at heart with the softest smile and a way of listening that made me feel like the whole world stopped when I spoke.
Whenever possible, we found ourselves in the forest exploring the world on foot or, if the weather was bad, on long drives that led to nowhere.
A wise medical student must appropriate his/her time appropriately and it can be very difficult to neglect someone you love for something that isn’t all that fun to do (lots of studying).
Tempers become shorter as weariness sets in, and this can lead to more disagreements and can potentially lead to the implosion of the relationship.
I guess I will only get through the QBank and Secrets 1.5 times each instead of 2.
Now, back to the title and maybe the reason why I completely botched my schedule: dating. ☹ First off, in both cases I tried extremely hard to bring my dating life to a halt before launching into study mode, but, as we all know, “When you stop looking, they come.” Step 1 studying relationship: I met someone 2 weeks before starting my arduous 6 week Step 1 study routine.
See, medical students are far more difficult to date than law students.
While law students need to finish up to 5 years in law school, medical students are perpetual students.
So I have a two different experiences to draw from: the guy I was dating during my Step 1 studying and the guy I dated during my Step 2 studying. He was a non-med student who had no idea what he was getting himself into. So I said he could bring me dinner or yogurt anytime. A few encouraging texts every day, some great take-out dinners, and many TCBY treats later – I walked out of my exam and settled into a great, but short-lived relationship. I laid the ground rules early on and he stuck around.
I told him how busy I was about to be and how this test determined my life. When I knew he was coming by that evening, I would make sure to study harder during the day so that I would be able to relax later. ☺ Step 2 Studying Relationship: This one was a little bit different because I didn’t really lay the ground rules well. It was definitely motivating having someone sit next to you until you finished your next set of 44 questions, but it was way too distracting.
Step 2 CK – the last big standardized test you take before you apply for residency.