I had been up all night crying after I received an email from him telling me how much he missed me and I knew that it was time to be honest and do one of the hardest, most dreaded things I would ever have to do. Let hearts heal and flames fizzle out before hopping on the friendship train. The Frisky: Why would choose to be rebound girlfriend? Set clear emotional boundaries: Feeling down, having issues, looking to get your emotional needs fulfilled? Keep the friendship simple and without too much emotional entanglement.
These exes already know what it’s like to be friends, which makes it easier to transition back into friendship.
Of course, this assumes the ex-couple didn’t move into a “friends-with-benefits” relationship, which can be quite complicated.
A new study from researchers in the US has delved into one of the greyest areas of friendship, which many people struggle with.
Psychologists believe that while many people remain friends with an ex for innocent reasons, for some people, staying friends could be motivated by less savoury personality traits Their findings add weight to the idea that post-relationship friendships offer both sides the chance to trade 'desirable resources', be it information, money, love or sex - but they say personality traits could predict someone's likelihood to keep in touch.
, it isn’t easy for ex-romantic partners to remain friends. If you’re like me, the answer is more likely zero, nil, nada, zilch.
Think about it…how many of your exes are still friends of yours? Even if your ex assured you that “it’s not you, it’s me,” breakups are still upsetting.
Keep it platonic: No sex, no kissing, no hand-holding, no flirting, no monkey business. The Frisky: Celebrities who've dated their bosses 4. Not because you're trying to spare any feelings, but rather out of respect and decorum. There may come a point when it's cool for the two of you to discuss it. Do that with your other friends, your therapist, or your journal. If there is some closure you still need and you want to discuss it, wait until you have some distance and perspective and can talk about it without getting too emotional. More than friendly feelings: If you or your ex starts to have more than friendly feelings toward the other, back off and evaluate.
If it works for you and there's no jealousy on either end ... Some people do get back together, but you should be very mindful about opening that door again unless you are sure.
However, when people scored highly for dark personality traits - which include elements of narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism - they were more likely to choose practicality and the chance of hooking up as key drivers for remaining friends.