For the first month, I found myself waiting for the other shoe to drop. For those of you who have found yourself in murky grey areas of dating, here are some reasons as to why you should put all of your chips in. My past two relationships prior to this one were what I used to refer to as “slow burns.” We would see each other once or twice a week, text sporadically, and sort of look down at the floor and mumble when people asked what was going on between us. Yes, you don’t want to rush into anything when it comes to relationships, but not knowing whether or not your partner wants the same thing as you from the relationship can drive anyone insane.
Now, I’m not saying I have talked to my boyfriend about marriage and kids and moving in together, but I do know that we are both really into each other, which is kind of the geekiest greatest feeling.
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There's a definitive line between a guy who has genuinely gone goo-goo for you and the insta-boyfriend.
Maybe I had rose-tinted glasses on and was missing some glaringly obvious reason as to why this was going to crash and burn.
Maybe the warm, gooey feeling in my stomach wasn’t the honeymoon stage of a new relationship, but some new, unidentified parasite living in my intestines and giving me all the feels. I have decided to dive right in instead of cautiously dipping my toes.
While you might be feeling stressed or panicked, if you can take a beat, you’ll see that the person who is possibly rushing you is likely doing it with good, pure intentions.
**Side note, if this is not the case and you’re feeling pressured into anything you’re not comfortable with, put that pretty foot down now and acknowledge that behavior head-on.
Call me old fashioned, but the clingier the guy is, the more suspect I am. Women seem to get blamed for asking some version of this question too early on, but guys are guilty of it, too. I finally had to pretend I had dinner with my mom to end what was the longest date of my life.)5. He barely knows you so why is he mad that you are going away for graduate school in the fall and not willing to "give the relationship a fair chance? He calls you his girlfriend.' Nuff said.__Have you ever encountered an insta-boyfriend?
It's called "moving too fast" and it's NOT gender specific.2. The first date was a definite success, but your happy glow will quickly fade when he starts blowing up your Facebook wall several times a day and texting you over and over. I'm all for a guy who drives a woman home and walks her to a door (chivalry gets me every time), but when it's Friday, you've only just met, and he's telling you about your shared plans for the weekend, you may have a clinger on your hands.
The latter is dangerous and a turn-off because he's likely to turn out needy, or worse, a serial dater.