Of course I am in no position to turn down a man for this reason, and I also hope that I am not judged by a man who thinks that a healthy family background is vital for a good relationship.Although I normally find the fact that a man is close with his family very attractive I often connect better with men who can relate to what it’s been like for me.Every time the words leave my lips, I find myself very badly wanting to believe that they are true. Lewis echoes this idea of love not as To love at all is to be vulnerable.
Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness.
But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. Others who come from broken homes can tell you that there’s a phrase folks like us sometimes use when we’re being truly open about our fears.
The ballad is rhapsodic by nature – it stutters along in both arcs and parallels, crescendoing in and out, almost mimicking the breathing pattern of ocean waves slapping at the shore.
This flow continues until around halfway through the song, at which point the band reveals their ringing climax: I absolutely love this line.
Once we are heartbroken and our trust was betrayed it is extremely hard to allow ourselves to give that to anyone else again.
Words suddenly mean nothing because we are so used to hearing them in the form of a lie. We feel like because we have been lied to that everyone will lie and it is really hard to separate the past from the present.
But during my childhood and early adult life I suffered a lot from my depressive mother and my (verbally) abusive father until I decided a couple of years ago to limit our contact to a minimum since there was too much damage done already.
I understand that my family history is far from ideal, but this doesn’t mean that I am not a family person or that I am a bad partner.
As many people who have been cheated on or lied to know, trusting is not something that comes easily.