How exactly do you go from dating someone casually to having a serious relationship with them? What qualities made you want to get serious with your date? Being self-aware of how others perceive you is a huge advantage in dating and relationships.
To make yourself a better partner, think about your past relationships.
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.
Talk about blurred lines."Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or action that can 'get' someone to commit," says Terri Trespicio, a lifestyle and relationship expert based in New York City. One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.
However you can use these tips to subtly up the chances that he'll want to turn casual dating into something more. And never tell yourself, "He's a nice guy and has done nothing wrong, so I guess I should be with him." "That's convincing yourself of something that's probably not right," Trespicio says.
Like, I can't even remember to text my mom back sometimes. When your friends see one of out they ask where the other one is.
If some guy is sending you random shit he finds on the internet or just saying "how's your day? And you're like, Or if you're both at a party people ask you, "hey, where's Jared? I mean, sometimes technology knows us better than we know ourselves. You might tell yourself you're not in a relationship, but one day hearts just showed up next to his name in Snapchat and you were like "how did they know!? You have plans to hang out on the next big holiday. When the DJ calls out the single ladies, you don't put your hands up.
If you relate to this list, then we hate to break it to you, but you're kind of in a relationship. You text each other every day and not just to hook up. If you've been talking to each other everyday for over a month, you're def more than just casual hookups. Anyways, the point is he creeps into your daydreams and you don't hate it.
But just because you haven't made it official doesn't mean you're not low-key already in a relationship. You're thinking about getting wasted at your birthday party, and he's taking you home. Or you know, more future stuff, but who really thinks that far ahead?
One of the staples for a new relationship is the fact that you constantly schedule your next get-together. ” or “Let’s get together next Wednesday night” are both quite probably set-ups for the next time you both will see one another.