I know this for a fact, because I was guilty of it myself after my marriage crumbled and I found myself back in the dating scene after 20 years. Beyond that, you can use these 10 tips designed to help you step up and take control of your dating in 2012. As you prepare for your next date, set your intentions very specifically before meeting someone new. Instead of relying on your perceptions of what your date across from you might feel or think, make it a point to stay in the moment. If what you want is a fling, go ahead and show off your curves. If you're a woman, embrace your femininity and practice the concept of "joyful receiving." If you're a man, embrace your masculinity and practice the concept of "joyful giving." Women, if a guy makes the effort to be chivalrous, say yes and thank you.
As a result, you are at risk of doing things you normally wouldn't do out of fear and anxiety. The image you create sends clear signals about who and what you are as well as the kind of person you're seeking to be with.
If you’re getting tired of the first-date grind, it could be time to switch things up.
Both women and men feel a spark when the woman is the focal point of the conversation.
Especially surprising, women weren't turned off when men interrupted them.
But please don’t seem like a “Debbie Downer” or just an insanely boring individual … Being dull and unmemorable will lead to the no-second-date blues. This means that it truly must go both ways, so resolve to actively add to the flow.
The first date may seem like an interview, and that may not sound fun—but it’s actually perfect because a Q&A is the best way to keep a conversation going!
You should also avoid talking about medical, financial and family issues early on. Don't answer every question your date asks with a simple yes or no, but don't monopolize the conversation, either.
The point of a first date is to secure a second date. Every single person I've ever interviewed over the last 25 years assures me that the biggest turn-on is when their date exudes confidence. You can be a better listener by focusing on the connection you have with your date. Don't decide he or she is not a match before the server brings you a complimentary glass of water.
My only real exception to this rule is for online dating; a low-investment date like coffee is more about a gut check than an actual You’re checking how you feel about one another when you meet in the flesh…
not to mention doing basic due diligence, trying to make sure that one or the other isn’t a psycho axe-murdering cannibal.
Be sure to have thought-out responses for easy use when carrying on a conversation.