"The working class has been hit harder by the recession than any other sector of society.For women who are struggling financially - such as healthcare workers like many of our members - a fling with an upper class man represents glamour and escape, a holiday from daily life, perhaps an element of security," Biderman said.She finds that people who were raised middle-class are often very diligent about planning their career advancement.
Then there’s the “background” stuff, like where he or she is from, what their family is like, what they do and earn, and so on. ” stage, we like to think that stuff doesn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter who makes what and who has what, right? The harsher truth is, economics do impact our romantic relationships.
We’ve all heard that finances are cited as the number one cause of divorce in the US.
But in the beginning, when we’re dating and trying to build a new relationship, what are the economic pitfalls of romance and how can we avoid them?
From fairy tales to adult films, we are exposed to a repeated idea: that love, or at least lust, crosses class lines.
In fiction, cross-class relationships either end in marriage and happily-ever-after, or else in dissolution and even death. Last year, I set out to answer this question by interviewing college-educated men and women who had married partners from different class backgrounds, for my book Most of the time, couples’ recognition of their different pasts was acknowledged in little more than a comment about their father’s job or a lavish family vacation.
Few people I spoke to reported having parents who plotted against their children’s relationships, or felt they were subject to social stigma for their cross-class relationship.
Most couples maintained that their class differences were behind them after marriage, as they now shared a bank account, a home, and a life.
Yet, by analyzing how individuals talked about themselves, their partners, and their marriages, I discovered that this was far from the truth. It’s also about how the amount of money and material things we used to have shape the type of people we become.
In fact, it’s usually not until meeting their in-laws that the couples themselves tend to become aware of their differences: more privileged partners spoke of the shock of walking into a house with hundreds of crystal figurines or trying to eat spam with a smile.
Less privileged partners told stories of mistaking a “night sail” for a “night sale,” puzzling over how to use a dishwasher, and taking note that their in-laws prefer the theater to the rodeo.
The poll found that 51.8 percent of upper class men are looking for a middle class woman and 42.4 percent of upper class men want a working class woman for an affair.