Pain that is triggered through attempts to be emotionally intimate with someone else.
Here is a woman who may look like a dream come true.
She not only seems to make you the center of her attention, but she even craves listening to your opinions, thoughts and ideas.
There is a liability to outbursts of emotion and an incapacity to control the behavioural explosions.
There is a tendency to quarrelsome behavior and to conflicts with others, especially when impulsive acts are thwarted or censored.
The propensity for abusiveness in those with BPD is instigated by the narcissistic injury that is at the heart of the core wound of abandonment Those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or those with BPD who may not even know they have it, are more likely than the general population to be verbally, emotionally/psychologically, physically abusive.
But what is behind the connection between Borderline Personality and abuse?
The fact is, a person in the throes of Borderline Personality Disorder is incapable of adult emotional intimacy, because the very nature of the disorder decrees that they have not matured enough emotionally to the degree that is required to have emotionally healthy adult intimacy.
They are caught in a cycle of emotional Push/Pull, or love-hate.
It enlivens the borderline’s worst nightmare – the unresolved pain of the core wound of abandonment.
A common and very confusing failure pattern of relationship instability is described in this article.
Accurate diagnosis of this disorder requires assessment by a qualified practitioner trained in psychiatric diagnosis and evidence-based treatment.