A benchmark of ladylike advice for being successful in the modern dating scene, this is an essential guide. It’s Harvey again, but this time with a book that has more comprehensive tips and specific instructions.
I started reading dating and relationship advice books from the age of 11, which I’m sure sounds extremely young, but that’s when I started liking boys. I have it on my bookshelf, covered in clear contact, and will never part with it. It’s basically about cutting the BS, the games and the pretense, and getting yourself into a real, loving relationship.
John Gray aims to teach you how to succeed with your (potential) other half by helping you to navigate what he thinks are the five stages of dating.
This international best seller by Helen Fisher takes things from a slightly different, more scientific approach than many other love advice books.
Unlike most couples therapy, which is largely unscientific even by psychology's standards, these two back their work with peer reviewed empirical evidence, which wins major points with me.
Books on the topic of dating, rather than relationship skills, tend to be mired in bullshit.
I was terribly curious, and reading about boys was far preferable to experimenting with them, where I could learn from a safe distance in the comfort of my Laura Ashley-decorated bedroom. ) It wasn’t long before the teddy bears, board games and My Little Ponies were replaced by Girlfriend, Dolly, Cosmo, CLEO, the entire Sweet Valley Twins series (which I still have in mint condition – surely they’re worth something by now) and a collection of self-help books that indulged my boy-mad brain. You can still purchase one called Girltalk but, sadly, I think , by Barbara De Angelis. That’s not to say there was absolutely NOTHING to take away from The Rules but, on the whole, it preached a fairly disastrous approach to dating. My adoration for Barbara De Angelis continued into another one of her books, This is a great book for when you’re finally IN a relationship and want some guidance as to whether or not it’s likely to last.
Thus began a love affair with love affairs – and I wanted to be armed and dangerous for when I finally stopped reading about it and started living it (which, much to my frustration, didn’t really happen until I was 15/16 – damn private girls’ school education). It was a counterattack on The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, which was the 50 Shades of Grey of 1995 – an unexpected and controversial phenomenon, minus the sex – and encouraged women to go back to 1950s-style dating in order to land a husband. She explains why love, although an essential ingredient, is not enough to sustain a relationship long-term.Facebook Email Capture Method Cookie')==null) $(".id_logged_in_email").html('Hi, ' facebook First Name '!So, yes, I have indulged in quite some books on dating; the good, the bad, and the extremely ugly!I have a girlfriend who hates it (the book), and we argue about it all the time, but I absolutely love it.It was the book I WISHED had been written before I was a teenager – frustratingly simple advice that I was embarrassed I hadn’t known all along.They're almost always heavily reliant on religious or other spiritual themes, rely heavily on questionable evolutionary psychology, are heavily dependent on manipulating other people (Pickup Artist and The Rules type stuff), use "the law of attraction," which is BS, or amount to useless platitudes.